Have you ever wondered, If it’s ok to not be ok?? I know we are asked a lot, how are you doing? Do you dare say what you actually feel. Most people expect you to say I am alright or I’m doing ok. I usually say I am doing great. Meanwhile, a part of me is struggling each and every day. Cause I have lots to do every day and no one knows exactly what I do.
But am I willing to tell them I actually am:
- tired and just fell like laying down and doing nothing
- that I am carrying stress and worry
- overwhelmed with everything
- needing help and don’t want to ask though
- wanting help but no one does it like I want it done
Has anyone asked me what do I do in a day? NO, they hadn’t asked. Not that they don’t care, it’s that they have lots to do too. Maybe not as much as you do, but in their head it is a lot. They woke up today and got dressed and went to the store. That may be a lot just for them. But we never really know, to be honest. Many people are like that, that daily functions are a lot for them.
Never really Know What Someone is Carrying
Do you find yourself looking at someone and thinking how do they hold it all together?
But you know what, we all carry our own set of challenges.
Did you think, that one task may be easy for one. But not for another. Running around doing errands and food shopping-is easy for one person, but not another. Some can’t even just get ready and leave the house.
So remember we are all different and have all different responsibilities. One may be able to run around with kids, while another would rather be sitting at a computer and work with spreadsheets and stuff. These are totally different tasks, and each person is different in what they can handle.
Feel Overwhelmed Does Not Mean Your Failing
As a Mom who works from home, some days are so busy when I have a long to-do list. Seems like I will never get it all done.
Work to finish, meals I need to prepare, laundry to do. Appointments to make, groceries to buy, and then family obligations. Getting my child up for school, or making sure grandkids are up and ready for school.
When I think I got this day handled, something unexpected happens. Schedule changes, or someone needs me. A work thing comes up and I need to handle that.
Then suddenly everything changes and I almost start to feel overwhelmed.
I have learned that I need to not over-think it. It was just a change of plans.
Why Taking A Break Matters
For the longest time, I have felt guilty whenever I slowed down.
Always thinking I need to always be doing something productive.
You know what I found out, Rest is productive too. We all need time to recharge.
You May just Need To Recharge
I pick one of these to help myself recharge:
- play games on the iPad
- pick up my crochet work
- watch a short YouTube video (motivational)
- get some fresh air
- go for a short walk
These small breaks are much needed. I am slowly learning how to stop and take a moment. Wether it be looking out a window at the hummingbirds in my yard. Or playing a short game, sometimes even just enjoying my coffee/tea.
Taking time for myself helps me to continue with my day. By resetting my mind and my energy.
Remember taking care of yourself is not selfish. Its necessary.
You Don’t Have to Do Everything Yourself
One thing I have learned along the way, is to ask for help. Its not weakness, but wisdom.
Many of us seem to forget that others can help. Even though we are so used to doing it all ourselves.
Delegate some tasks. You may have to actually show them how to do it. But thats ok, cause they are helping you out.
Family members can:
- Feed the Pets
- Take out the garbage
- Help in dinner prep-making the rice or potatoes
- vacuum the livingroom.
- wash the floor every week
- put groceries away after you shopped
It helps to reduce your stress, and also teaches them responsibility.
Sharing the load, so you don’t have to carry it alone.
Aging Means Adapting
Notice that as I age, my energy is not the same. What was easy for me when I was in my 20 or 30’s, is way different now.
That’s life.
Realizing this, has made me notice that I don’t have to do it all myself. Others are younger and they can for sure do it for me. Little complaining, but thats kids for you.
Sometimes, I have lots of energy. Baking cupcakes and making bread. Even made a full breakfast and made dinner later on. While also doing 6 loads of laundry-all hung and folded and put away.
Wow, the next day I am toast. I cannot even think of doing anything! But you know what, that is age. And I am reminded again, how old I really am. Loved that one day of energy. I know now don’t push too hard, and take breaks when needed.
Adjusting with my expectations and work with the energy I have.
Finding Motivation Through Purpose
One thing I know for sure is to keep going forward. That means having a purpose set for your day and your life.
When you know what is driving you, its easier to say focused during the difficult days. Without getting side tracked.
My Family is a major part of my Why.
Inspire me to continue building my business and creating us a better future.
When the goals connect to something so meaningful , this motivation becomes way easier to manage. As some days, I do struggle and I then remember what my why is.
That’s why it’s Important to ask yourself:
- What does financial freedom mean to me?
- What kind of life do I want to create?
- What am I working toward?
- Why is this all important?
Your vision will become more clearer when you ask the right questions. Once you see your vision, it becomes easier to stay committed.
Working From Home Isn’t Always Easy
It’s Ok To Not Be Ok
We all age and get older, so now we have to remember we need to change and roll with it. Don’t hold yourself to the standards of when you were younger. Cause you can’t sustain the same speed as you did before. When I think about what the younger me did, wow. I sure can’t do that now. Takes a lot out of me and my energy sometimes to just run around all day. I have my good days and bad-low energy days. So when you don’t want to do something, its ok. Whoever said you had to do it. When they say why you didn’t do it. Ask them- why don’t you do it. Why do I have to do it. Only because I always did, well now I don’t feel like it. Get someone else to do it.
Start off learning how to teach others doing something you don’t want to be always doing. Send off some of your to-do things to make it part of their routine. Make it so they have something for them that they have to be responsible for. Not you anymore. I have someone making part of our dinner, so I don’t do it all. Another has to feed the pets, or take out the garbage, or even collect the tv remotes. Just decide who can do what and delegate a task to them. They feel helpful and you don’t get overwhelmed.
I want financial freedom
But you know what, I love my work and it doesn’t feel like work. But this working from home is great. I just recently got told to find my why and make a page. So I did and I know why I am here and want to make this work. That is my drive for my passion of getting this work done. So I have many things to do that keep me really busy 6 days a week. It is a great thing I have found, great for everyone actually. Get yourself out of poverty and have financial freedom. I believe that is everyone’s dream. But you know you need to see the bigger picture and that is everyone else’s problem. They can’t see the solution, cause they don’t know what it is. Even when it lands right on their lap, they still are skeptical. So this is your solution right here right now, staring you in the face. Click the link and let’s get you started. Or even reach out to me and let’s chat.
Just remember you need to know what your dream work from home is. You want to have financial freedom and what does that look like. How many hours do you think you want to dedicate? How many hours actually will you dedicate to this? I find that it sure does help to have a plan set for what your looking for. Don’t just think about it, put a plan in action. That will keep up your motivation to keep this up and keep striving towards your dream or dreams.
I do struggle some times, as working from home is a challenge. I know it’s ok to not be ok, as I used to stress out alot. Mainly for others things I had no control over, or feeling guilty that I work so much. So I am getting better at it now.
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