Have you just realized that you are stressed out lately? Why? Helping too much people or just don’t know how to say no. You think you can get a bunch of things done and not realize how much you had signed up for? Or you a mom and you work full-time? Seem to be the one that has to take the whole load on. Every one expects you to do all the housework when you get home. You know your super tired, but it needs to get done.
When things like happen, we need to ask for help from other family members. I don’t know why us Moms think we just have to do it all our selves. Mainly, cause I know it will be done correctly and right. Then I realize this is why I am so stressed out lately. Cause I took everything on myself. I always need to remind myself to not do this. Take the time to teach my kids or others how to do it. Which helps me to let off some of the stress.
Stressed out Lately cause you are Doing The Holiday Cooking Yourself
You thaw the turkey, and cook it. Then when it comes to time to make all the side dishes, you do this too. Then after all this, you are doing all the dishes too. Or you are putting all the leftovers away. In between you would have tried to eat your food too.
This sure does sound like alot and alot of stress too.
Just thinking about all I do for a holiday get together. I realize why I don’t get all excited for it. All the cooking and prep for the dinner. While others sit around and wait for food. Gets me mad when someone asks “When is dinner ready?” No one helps or even offers, but are there to make the mess and leave.
I did ask why everyone does this, their answer is because I always did the cooking. No one ever offered to help or even ask me. They gave no other answer except for that one, cause I always did the cooking. Now I am really trying to not get mad, when I get this answer.
Why Thanksgiving Is Tough for Me
I realized I was getting stressed out because it is close to the holidays. I just made it past Thanksgiving, which is a hard one for me to do. Mainly cause my mom passed on the day quite a few years ago. So I celebrate by making dinner on a different day or just making the big dinner for one supper.
This seems to work for me, celebrate on a different day, and not on the tenth of October. I do get sad around this time too. Then I remember I get to spend time with my family and make them dinner. Then I feel ok, and focus on making dinner for all.
When dinner is all over and everyone leaves. I have a quiet moment to myself and remember my mom. Have a little cry sometimes and that makes me feel better most times. Then I remind myself of the good times I had with my mom. Also, all she did for me when she was able to. I usually feel better after a good cry. Then I don’t feel so stressed out and just feel at peace.
So when you feel like you have been stressed out lately. Remember when your making all the food, that you are making it for your family that loves you. Get some good family time with the ones you love, and make some more good memories. Maybe even take some pictures too.
Christmas Holiday Is Stressful also
As I realize, now comes Christmas and I always think about how I always decorated for my kids when they were younger. They are adults now, so I feel I don’t have to decorate. I now do have younger kids though, and I feel they deserve Christmas holiday decorations. So I think I need to go all out, baking cookies and making turkey dinner. Decorate the house and make it feel like Christmas.
So I make it hard on myself and know I should do this and want to do that. I feel like it won’t take me long to do that, but I just don’t feel like doing it. Then I feel guilty for not making my kids feel good, cause the house is not decorated. I feel like I disappointed them. To find out later, they didn’t really want many decorations. Because they mainly hang out in their rooms. And wonder why I had to decorate. So it is me that is hard on myself.
How To Not Stress Out!!
Have you heard of breathing? I know we all breathe as we need to breathe to live. But do you know how to actually breathe to release bad air and take in good energy air? Now, what is that? We all have energy inside us, and you need only good energy in you. We want to rid ourselves of the bad energy. How? Simple, wake up in the morning. You will want to focus on relaxing and how your breathing.
You will do 5 focused breathing exercises first thing in the morning, to start your day off great!!!
- lie still- breath in for 4 seconds through your nose and hold for 4 seconds and release for 6 seconds out of your mouth.
Now, this will take some time to get the hang of always doing it. Remind yourself that you need to do this each and every day. Once you do this for a few days you will notice how your stress doesn’t feel as bad as it did before. Why? because you are releasing your body of the bad toxins (energy) in your body. Welcoming the good energy into your body. Something so simple and easy to do, just focusing on your breathing will make you feel better.
You can even do this when you are just sitting there and relaxing. So when you start to feel stressed then take time to breathe. And you will notice how your shoulders will go down and you will become relaxed.
Stressed Out Lately Find Some Ways to Relax That Work For You
- a hot bath
- a facial after a good facial steam
- a walk
- a good playlist- relaxing music
- something you love doing- your passion(baking, knitting/crochet/reading/listen to music)
- time by yourself
Now, hope to practice this for less stress. Or even eliminate the thing that is causing the stress. No matter what it is, you need to rid yourself of it. Or least get away from it for a while, to de-stress yourself. Sometimes it may be something you just find too hard to do. Makes you stressed out. Or even a family member may get you mad and you struggle with what to do. That thought is what is causing you stress. Because you feel guilty for not doing it, or not helping or talking to this person.
I know I have things and people that get to me. I know my limits on how much time I should spend with this person or persons. Once I leave that person, I make sure to take the time to cleanse myself of their bad energy. All before I go back into my house. To not bring in the bad energy into my space- my house. As I recently had that filled up in my house.
Bad Energy From People
I know that hanging out with people that just drain me of my energy. Are ones I don’t like hanging out with them all the time. They may want to talk and I know that they will just talk about everything about them. Or even gossip about others. But they don’t want to listen to what you want to say. They change it to themselves again and you feel stressed out again. You know that they trigger your stress, so less hanging out with them is better.
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